MAKING FRIENDS

INTRODUCING

1. Decide when it is a good time to do it. Provide different scenarios such as during work time, while the person is talking to a supervisor, during break, while the person has a large group of people at their house, during usual meal times, while the person looks like they are busy with something or someone, etc.

2. Approach the person while keeping good personal space.

3. Look the person in the eye.

4. Extend your hand for a handshake (may have to practice giving a good handshake).

5. Say something like "Hi, my name is _____________. What is yours?"

6. Say something like "Pleased to meet you."
   

ENGAGING IN SMALL TALK

1. Decide when it is a good time to do it. Provide different scenarios such as during work time, while the person is talking to a supervisor, during break, while the person has a large group of people at their house, during usual meal times, while the person looks like they are busy with something or someone, etc.

2. Approach the person while keeping good personal space.

3. Look the person in the eye.

4. Say hello or some other greeting.

5. Talk about the weather, ask the person how he is doing, what he is doing on the weekend, etc.

6. Listen to what the other person has to say.

7. Ask further questions or provide information that is relative to the topic.

8. At the end of the conversation, say something like "it's been nice talking to you, I will talk to you later."
   

ASKING SOMEONE TO DO SOMETHING

1. Decide when it is a good time to do it. Provide different scenarios such as during work time, while the person is talking to a supervisor, during break, while the person has a large group of people at their house, during usual meal times, while the person looks like they are busy with something or someone, etc.

2. Decide what you would like to do and when.

3. Approach the person while keeping good personal space.

4. Look the person in the eye.

5. Say hello and ask the person how she is doing.

6. Allow the person to respond and make any conversation she wants to.

7. After finishing the small talk, ask the person if she would like to do the activity you decided on.

8. Be flexible. Allow the person to make other suggestions about the activity or time.

9. If the person accepts, tell her that you are pleased and can't wait until the activity. If the person declines, don't take it personally. You can't be friends with everybody.

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